Pregnancy After Miscarriage

Some couples try almost immediately to get pregnant after miscarriage. Others feel that this is way too soon, and they need more time to recover their emotional stability. Typically, sex is not recommended for 2 weeks after a miscarriage to prevent an infection. You might need more recovery time if you miscarried in the second trimester.

Deciding when to start is entirely up to you and your partner and what feels best. There is no right or wrong way to go. Don’t let others pressure you into trying to have a baby after miscarriage if you aren’t ready. Everyone from your doctor to your mother-in-law will have an opinion, but the only opinion that counts is yours. And that can change from yearning to start right away to never wanting to get pregnant ever again, all within the space of a few minutes!

You may also have people telling you that quickly getting pregnant after miscarriage will relieve your grief. This is not necessarily the case, so trust your instincts.

Besides needing time to get over the loss and recover from topsy-turvy hormones, it could be a good idea to wait for your period to come back. I you don’t, you may experience one of two scenarios, both of which could cause unnecessary pain and anxiety:

• If you quickly get pregnant following miscarriage without having had a period, you won’t have a reliable last menstrual period date. This makes it harder to establish how far along you are, which could lead to confusion and worry over the fetus’s development.
• If you have retained tissue from the miscarriage, you may get a positive pregnancy test but you are not pregnant. The positive result comes from hormones still in your system from your previous pregnancy. You may begin bleeding and cramping and think you are having another miscarriage, but really you are still going through the first one. If you don’t wait the 4 or more weeks for your period to return, you won’t know if a positive pregnancy test means you really are with child again.

There is a school of thought that some women are especially fertile in the 2 to 3 months immediately following the loss of a fetus; however, there is no scientific proof to back this up.

If there were medical complications with the pregnancy you should consult your doctor before you start trying to get pregnant following a miscarriage, as you or possibly your partner may need treatment.

How you might feel when pregnant again

Having a miscarriage doesn’t mean you're now at greater risk of having another miscarriage. But of course, it's only natural that you will be worried it will happen again. Fortunately, the odds are overwhelmingly in favor of you getting a healthy baby next time round. Around 85% of women who've had one miscarriage will go on to have a successful pregnancy next time. Around 75% of women who've had 2 or 3 miscarriages will go on to have a successful pregnancy. Understandably, you might not be as happy and excited with your next pregnancy as you may still be feeling broken-hearted about the miscarriage or concerned about losing this one as well. There are several things you can do to make things easier:

When to see a specialist

Your doctor may refer you to a specialist if you: Trying to conceive again after a miscarriage can be a very emotional experience. You may feel hopeful and optimistic one minute, and anxious, afraid, and stressed the next. Talk with your partner about your emotions and seek counselling if necessary. You should also try to establish a network of loved ones to provide you with the support you need and talk to other women who have experienced miscarriage to help you cope.